Rape is allowed because most people don’t know what it is: Anonymous
Guest post by ANONYMOUS
Rape is allowed because most people don’t know what it is.
To say that victims understand it is assuming too much. The immediate affect will be a deep, invisible wound. After years of counselling it will still hurt and terrorise. All the strength in the world, at the individual and existential levels, will fall short. Very often the crime will remain unreported. Rather than empowering women, the legal system will manage so few convictions that it will itself be the greatest perpetrator.
The perpetrators, as in the actual rapists, know as much or as little as the victims. They will go unarrested, unnoticed, unashamed, and this will fuel their psychopathy. They may or may not realise that rape is not about sex but power.
Lawmakers don’t know what to do about it. The most enlightened governments in the world manage very few convictions.
The media is excited about it the way it is about everything else. All the reportage and activism will serve a minimal, nebulous purpose and soon they will be reporting other monsters.
Protestors seek redemption by finding scapegoats, sometimes succeeding, often not. They bring the poor law and order situation into focus and get tear gassed, because they are considered a nuisance.
The victims know they will not be healed (if they don’t die of injuries or at their own hands). It will take years for them to understand the many ways in which rape will affect them, their relationships, their own children. A conviction may come as a consolation prize. Although there were years, according to crime statistics, when conviction occurred in fewer than half of the cases that were reported.
Capital punishment is touted as another possible solution by the most bewildered or angry but will do nothing to deter it: for example, the rape of a four year old child will not be prevented if the perpetrator is a family member because the vulnerability of the victim in such a situation is absolute. It will also not deter a man, who from years of suppression of sexual desire and lack of sex education exhibits the peculiar but socially accepted psychopathic tendency to look at a woman as an object for his use. And who has no notion of what abuse might be, even if he ends up in jail for it. And, sadly, several generations of men and women after him, won’t either. But since justice only ever appears to be done, hanging may be as good a solution as any. It might make some people happy even if not a single demon is exorcised.
Women will continue to protect rapist sons, fathers, and, sometimes, husbands. They know that to stand up to an abusive man within a family will change everything for everyone and that is exactly the opposite of what their training has taught them to do. That to ignore and deny, is probably best for everyone in the long run – and perhaps it is. Thus, the circle of injustice is complete.
There are men in the world (to say nothing of those in this country) who probably know better what to do with cars and cattle than with their own wives and daughters.
It’s only logical: rape will not stop.
(The writer is a rape survivor.)
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