You’ve found the one. You’ve discussed the possibility of marriage. You want to start making concrete decisions about the future. It’s time to propose, but how? There is nothing spontaneous about popping the question. Figuring out when and how to propose is a process that requires major planning. Here’s how to plan the perfect proposal—but with a little extra sparkle.
Diamonds Are Forever
The engagement ring is perhaps the key element in a proposal. It is one of the most significant big-ticket purchases you will ever make, so investing time and effort into the search is a must.
Finding the perfect engagement ring is easy if your partner has been dropping hints or sending you links. Some couples even design their rings and go shopping for them together.
However, if you’re figuring it out on your own, it’s important to get a sense of what they like. Do they follow jewelry Instagram accounts or have a Pinterest board? Do they have specific design preferences? You can also try asking a close friend or family member for help.
When in doubt, you can never really go wrong with diamonds. If your partner has a penchant for all things shiny and sparkly, look no further than diamond engagement rings, the classic staple favored by brides across all generations.
If you are looking for an accessible, customizable, and slightly more affordable option, why not give lab-grown diamonds a go? Lab-grown diamonds are grown in controlled laboratory settings and take no more than weeks to be fully formed. They have practically the same physical, chemical, and optical qualities as naturally-mined diamonds.
Lab-grown diamonds have become increasingly popular in recent years. The contemporary and modern ring designs sold by current retailers appeal to many young couples or those looking for a non-traditional ring.
Lab-grown diamonds can cost around 30 percent less than naturally-mined diamonds. With the cost savings, you have more leeway to splurge on a nicer setting or size up to a larger carat.
As you embark on your search, familiarize yourself with the “Four Cs”—cut, clarity, color, and carat. Most importantly, a diamond should be well-cut, allowing its facet to interact with light in the most brilliant and stunning way possible, and have little inclusions and blemishes.
The shape of the diamond you choose should reflect your partner’s individual style. Round brilliant-cut diamonds top the chart in terms of popularity and price. If size matters, choose an alternative shape like marquise, pear, or princess, and get more carats at a better price point.
Rings should feel snug yet comfortable, and that boils down to the correct sizing. If you do not know your partner’s ring size, find a ring they wear regularly and bring it with you to the jeweler. You can even suggest getting sized together if that doesn’t spoil the surprise. At the end of the day, resizing is always an option.
When you finally find the ring of your dreams, make sure it comes with certification from an accredited laboratory like the Gemological Institute of America (GIA). If not, identification and testing services are available.
The Devil’s in the Detail
Now that you’ve got the ring settled, it is time to plan the actual proposal. Think about whether you want to go all out in a grand gesture with dramatic flair, or keep the moment intimate in a private setting. Remember that there should be no pressure on your partner, and the proposal should be catered to their individual personality.
You can never go wrong with a spot that holds sentimental value for both of you. Regardless of whether you plan to propose at the beach or in your own living room, set the mood with the right decor. Stay away from ideas bordering on cliché or one-size-fits-all.
Consider outsourcing if you struggle with logistics and have the budget for it. For example, you can enlist the help of a professional proposal planner if you want the entire experience to be smooth-sailing and worry-free.
Full-fledged engagement parties are not a must, but there should be some form of celebration. After all, it is a huge milestone. Why not book a fancy hotel suite for the night coupled with dinner at your favorite restaurant? The possibilities are endless, and it ultimately depends on what you like to do as a couple.
Contrary to what some might think, documenting the occasion (and those priceless reaction snapshots) is a must. You don’t even have to hire a professional, but it is highly recommended if you want high-quality photos and videos to look back on. If you are planning for the proposal to be an intimate, one-on-one moment, set up your camera or phone in a discreet spot and press record.
With the proper research and planning, it’s never been easier to pop the question. What are you waiting for?